Just go with the flow…

I found this a while ago on tumblr and I had to share it with you guys. It made me realize how important it is to appreciate the little things in live… How important it is to be honest and that you are the only one who can make your life wonderful and pure. Save the beautiful memories instead of thinking the bad ones over and over again. Stop worrying about stupid fights, being bitchie about someone else and be angry about things your forget about in two weeks … Fill your time with the good things in your life and love the people around you.

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21 Habits of Happy People

1. Appreciate Life – Be thankful that you woke up alive each morning. Develop a childlike sense of wonder towards life. Focus on the beauty of every living thing. Make the most of each day. Don’t take anything for granted. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

2. Choose Friends Wisely – Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values and goals. Friends that have the same ethics as you will encourage you to achieve your dreams. They help you to feel good about yourself. They are there to lend a helping hand when needed.

3. Be Considerate – Accept others for who they are as well as where they are in life. Respect them for who they are. Touch them with a kind and generous spirit. Help when you are able, without trying to change the other person. Try to brighten the day of everyone you come into contact with.

4. Learn Continuously – Keep up to date with the latest news regarding your career and hobbies. Try new and daring things that has sparked your interest – such as dancing, skiing, surfing or sky-diving.

5. Creative Problem Solving – Don’t wallow in self-pity. As soon as you face a challenge get busy finding a solution. Don’t let the set backs affect your mood, instead see each new obstacle you face as an opportunity to make a positive change. Learn to trust your gut instincts – it’s almost always right.

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6. Do What They Love – Some statistics show that 80% of people dislike their jobs! No wonder there’s so many unhappy people running around. We spend a great deal of our life working. Choose a career that you enjoy – the extra money of a job you detest isn’t worth it. Make time to enjoy your hobbies and pursue special interests.

7. Enjoy Life – Take the time to see the beauty around you. There’s more to life than work. Take time to smell the roses, watch a sunset or sunrise with a loved one, take a walk along the seashore, hike in the woods etc. Learn to live in the present moment and cherish it. Don’t live in the past or the future.

8. Laugh – Don’t take yourself – or life to seriously. You can find humor in just about any situation. Laugh at yourself – no one’s perfect. When appropriate laugh and make light of the circumstances. (Naturally there are times that you should be serious as it would be improper to laugh.)

9. Forgive – Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. Forgive others for your own peace of mind. When you make a mistake – own up to it – learn from it – and FORGIVE yourself.

“Happiness is a habit – cultivate it.” ~ Elbert Hubbard

10. Gratitude – Develop an attitude of gratitude. Count your blessings; All of them – even the things that seem trivial. Be grateful for your home, your work and most importantly your family and friends. Take the time to tell them that you are happy they are in your life.

11. Invest in Relationships – Always make sure your loved ones know you love them even in times of conflict. Nurture and grow your relationships with your family and friends by making the time to spend with them. Don’t break your promises to them. Be supportive.

12. Keep Their Word – Honesty is the best policy. Every action and decision you make should be based on honesty. Be honest with yourself and with your loved ones.

13. Meditate – MEDITATION gives your very active brain a rest. When it’s rested you will have more energy and function at a higher level. Types of meditation include yoga, hypnosis, relaxation tapes, affirmations, visualization or just sitting in complete silence. Find something you enjoy and make the time to practice daily.

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14. Mind Their Own Business – Concentrate on creating your life the way you want it. Take care of you and your family. Don’t get overly concerned with what other people are doing or saying. Don’t get caught up with gossip or name calling. Don’t judge. Everyone has a right to live their own life the way they want to – including you.

15. Optimism – See the glass as half full. Find the positive side of any given situation. It’s there – even though it may be hard to find. Know that everything happens for a reason, even though you may never know what the reason is. Steer clear of negative thoughts. If a negative thought creeps in – replace it with a positive thought.

16. Love Unconditionally – Accept others for who they are. You don’t put limitations on your love. Even though you may not always like the actions of your loved ones – you continue to love them.

17. Persistence – Never give up. Face each new challenge with the attitude that it will bring you one step closer to your goal. You will never fail, as long as you never give up. Focus on what you want, learn the required skills, make a plan to succeed and take action. We are always happiest while pursuing something of value to us.

tumblr_n02nvd3Bfd1r3nnfeo1_50018. Be Proactive – Accept what can not be changed. Happy people don’t waste energy on circumstances beyond their control. Accept your limitations as a human being. Determine how you can take control by creating the outcome you desire – rather than waiting to respond.

19. Self Care – Take care of your mind, body and health. Get regular medical check ups. Eat healthy and work out. Get plenty of rest. Drink lots of water. Exercise your mind by continually energizing it with interesting and exciting challenges.

20. Self Confidence – Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. After all no one likes a phony. Determine who you are in the inside – your own personal likes and dislikes. Be confident in who you are. Do the best you can and don’t second guess yourself.

21. Take Responsibility – Happy people know and understand that they are 100% responsible for their life. They take responsibility for their moods, attitude, thoughts, feelings, actions and words. They are the first to admit when they’ve made a mistake.

Begin today by taking responsibility for your happiness. Work on developing these habits as you own. The more you incorporate the above habits into your daily lifestyle – the happier you will be.

Most of all: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.

 

Love,

 

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FITSPO; What is your reason?

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Most of us girls want to be skinny, thin, good looking obvious… but do you know why you want that?

Why do you actually want to look like these girls? Because you think it makes you happier? Or because everybody want that? What is YOUR reason? Ask yourself this question BEFORE your workout to make it a lot easier for yourself.

Doing workouts, running training only for losing weight isn’t the easy / healthy way… You can eat ‘healthy’ and train then your body feels healhy, but are you healthy in your mind?? No, because you hate to do it! You eat green stuff when you think that you want chocolate… That doesn’t sound very right, is it?

That is why it is good to ask yourself these questions, I ask myself these questions every time after a “break”. I have to admit that when I started with living “the healthy lifestyle” I just wanted to look good, losing weight and nothing else. I even thought that if I lost weight fast that I could move on with my life and being happy with myself because my weight was the same for years so if I just lost a bit it was gone and that’s it. But no, that never worked out… It is impossible to do that and be happy.

Now I don’t even think about the weight anymore, I simply don’t care how heavy I am but I care about how i feel. It feels so good when you eat food that your body really need.. and to be fit, how good is the feeling when you have to walk a stairs without being tired? That is why you should do this, not for your looks but for how you feel. It does feel good in many ways and if you feel good and be good for your body the weight comes so easily. Your body will reward you, believe me…

Love,

Do we live or exist?

This is question that I constantly see on tumblr: Do you live or just exist? And that made me think, a lot.. Is that really what we are doing here on this planet? Just exist and wasting our time with this we don’t like, waiting until our time is up?! You can see this in many ways, like going to school and work that you don’t like or hanging on the couch. But I don’t think that that’s really what they meant.. I think it is more by chasing your dreams, and never take NO for an answer.

There are things in this world that you want, like traveling, living a expensive life, big cars and all that kind of luxury. But think about it first, why do you want that?! Because it is pretty? Or because other people think that is pretty? Because we all decided that driving a big car is awesome. But is that really what makes you happy? Or is it because you think it makes you happy? If you start thinking very deep by what do you really want?… It is all about being valued, you want people to like you and that people see you and accept you. But that car doesn’t make you happy, being yourself makes you happy. If people like you for who you are isn’t that the best feeling ever? Isn’t that much better than having all these luxury, and that is (most of the time) the only reason why people like you. This is the first step of all, WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT?! What is YOUR dream? And what makes YOU truly happy?

And this is something that I am struggling with for weeks maybe months, I don’t know what I want… But I do know that I want to live, and I am not going waste my time here until I die and regret how I lived. And that is why I also made this blog/website. This is what I want and this is what I like to do. Writing about my thoughts that nobody around me understand. I love it, and I can do it everywhere.

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And when I found this story on http://www.jayalvarrez.com I was shocked. But that is reality, we always regret things when it is too late. That why I want to share this with you guys.
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Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed

“I had to share this with anyone bit of a read but let it spark you, It was only 4-5 years ago I truly stopped letting other heavily influence me & let there thoughts & what they say mean nothing to me, And the point where I started expressing my self to people and it truly shined threw to show me who my real friends were and who i blended well with.. Always remember this one.. the ones who matter don’t mind and the ones that mind don’t matter..” – @Jayalvarrez

“For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality”

I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honor at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what  others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

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If you really want something, work for it, you can make it happen. “If you can dream it, you can get it” Enjoy every little thing in life, make time for your children, your parents, family, friends and forgive. Everybody and everything that you love and who makes you happy. Because in the end that is all that matter. All the weight-loss, little bitch fights and I am ugly problems are nothing. Stop waisting your time on that, and live your life so you can be happy and proud that you made that happen. Write your own history. & again, enjoy every minute of your life. Don’t worry about others or little problems, it is only you and the ones you love.

I will make more posts about this, if you have questions you can always asked them on tumblr.

Love,

Control your own mind

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This is a huge issue for lots of people. Since we start growing up we learn from everyone around us to think about others. That is normal of course, and not always bad. But I found out that we do it wayyyy to much.. We are afraid to do are own things that we love because of the opinion of others.

“What would he say if I do this” “What would she do when I do that?” And that is so wrong! Why do we care? What are we afraid for? What is going to happen if a other person doesn’t like it or judge you? He/she shouldn’t control your life. If they don’t like it what you do, so what? They can do it different in their own way, right? Why let you ruin your life for someone who you probably don’t even know anymore in 10 years..

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I always thought way to much about others. At my first school, (10 years ago) agh it was a hell. Everything you did was wrong, it brainwashed me completely. It wasn’t personal everybody did it to everyone at that school. And it changed me into something I am not. I bought clothes that I wouldn’t wear to school: “what if they say, what if they do”. And I see everywhere around me that people still do that, even unconscious.

STOP THAT!
Listen to this: If you want to do something that you really love, don’t ever let you stop. Maybe you see the problem bigger then it really is, if some one is being mean, don’t listen to it (unless your agree, then learn from it)! I know it isn’t that easy. But think why they say that to you.. Are they right about it, or is it just jealousy because you are happy? Most of the time it is the second one, people can be so mean.. and it is all about how you react on that. They say things to you and you’ve been hurt for a week but they forget in a day that they said that to you!

Have you ever been bullied and ask that person why he does that to you? Well I did and she could’t say a word anymore. And that is the thing, they aren’t bad people, I believe that no one is.. But most of the time they feel bad about something and they try to give you the same feeling and is it nothing personal.

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I see now when I started this blog that; most of the people are sooo sweet, they wish me all the luck in the world, try to help me and that is the best feeling ever. But also a few who doesn’t even react! There are always people who try to hurt your feelings or give you the feeling that you do wrong, no matter what you do, and you can not change that. But you can change you & your reaction on that.

If you live your own life, be happy for every body else for what they do, you will see that you are a huge step forward. Be nice to other people, give them compliments. If she has nice shoes, tell her. Give compliments as much as you can! Don’t fake it, but be real to people around you. Be nice and see the good in people and they see the good in you. If you see some one in the train with ugly hair, try to not think about the hair.. but think: “O, that’s a good book that is she reading”. If you hate that other people judge you all the time, stop do that to others. It sounds weird but it is like you don’t see the judgements anymore. What you give it what you get. Be positive even in the little things. Judging other people can be so hard, and completely unnecessary. Focus on your life, only yours! There is no need to destroy someone else’s dream. Just live your own. Make your life your own, enjoy every part of it and you will see the light in everything.

Ohja, and don’t feel bad now if you judged someone, maybe today.. You can not change the past, but change your future. Realize that you are so much better than that. Start living, you are amazing!

Love,