Free your thoughts

Yesterday I was talking with my bfffff, and it was about being honest. It is the hardest thing in some situations but also the easiest. We all have million silent questions in a day, some silly onces like “Why is she wearing that jacket with those shoes?!” or harder onces like “why isn’t he answering?”, “why people say those things about me?” and you can keep thinking, making up answers for yourself, “ahh probably because…” You waste your time, as long as you keep guessing and keep the questions for yourself, you would never know the answer.

What about just ask the person what’s going on? YESSSS, that is the better option! I’ve noticed that so many people are afraid to walk to the person and ask the questions that are stuck in their head. Why is that so scary?

I like to experiment with my deep thoughts about life, also with this subject; I started with “investigate” how many times people keep questions to theirselves or act like they don’t care about several things. Than I try out how people react when I asked the questions that pop op in my head, without making up a weird story to get the answer. Just simple “what is the reason that you lie?”, “why do you behave like that?” or “Why do you make a fight instead of asking her?” <- CLASSIC!

That was funny, because the reactions were very different, you can see how people really are. Most of them started laughing, they liked that I asked straight to the point and answered the question honest… it solved more issues than I expected. But other people were shocked or lie… “Like omg why you asked?” Or “no, I’ve never said that”

Who looked like a fool here? Me because I was honesty asking what I wanted to know, or them because they got caught?

It is such a relief to say what is on your mind, no matter how hard it is at the moment. If you don’t want to do something, say it instead of doing things that you don’t want to and screw it up. Ask that person what is going on instead of being bitchie and making fights for nothing. Ask your boyfriend about the girl instead of thinking that he is cheating. Most of the time things looks worser then they really are do not get fooled by that. Get real to others and especially to yourself.

You are a magical creature, with a lot of power… Use the power that you have for more amazing things.

 

Loving life,

The inspiring; JAY ALVARREZ

I like Life raw.. No stress no chemicals, no drugs, ratty hair and less clothing. I like to be sober & rowdy and do the things I love to keep me up, I like to be alone and I love everything thats natural.. Say what you feel and forget how others judge you.. The things that keep me happy are simple yet amazing, I love where I am from and what I am… Only secret iv’e learn to be happy in life is to be Content and not insecure for what you are express what you do and feel & build up no pain… No clouds in my life… ✖️

 

Jay Alvarrez,

 

18 years old but goshhh what a strong mind has this kid. With his photography, sexy looks and his different & amazing lifestyle he conquers the world. He is one of the most inspiring people I know from the internet, so wild & free and very creative how he choose to live his life…

He is living on one of the most beautiful places on the world: Oahu Hawaii North Shore, isn’t this like paradise?!

Isn’t it amazing how this young guy could find a way, to turn his life around to a real paradise? His world is a fairytale, OUR world is his fairytale. What do you think about that? We can all make our lives in to a magical surprising place, we live in the same world as Jay and he is a real life example for “make your dreams come true”. He followed his dreams, and he did what was really good for himself instead of what “the world” expected from him. He made a difference took chances and that is what I call a hero.

 

Anonymous asked: When did you make the biggest change in your life ?
This made me think a lot for some reason probably because you caught me in-between emotions.. Growing up I always was kinda outta the group and loop of a lot of the other kids just more different not cool enough or whatever it was I got shit from other kids because my style & what I liked to do, Girls never liked me because I was weird & different & because I wouldn’t do what everyone else would to fit in. It bugged me a lot sometimes as a kid I lowered my standards to a lot of different things in life and kind of accepted that maybe I’m just made differently and not as good as everyone else. skip forward a few years & now I’m 14-15 Around this time my mom got diagnosed with cancer and had a year to live.. it wasn’t for awhile till I realized what was going on.. when you are a kid everything blends together mix’s between dreamy things and little worries because these years you really are learning things in life new emotion come into play so often and you are so venerable to outside sources and honestly looking back everything from when I was 15 years and younger felt like a different life something that almost was so far away from me but every smell of something brought back vivid nostalgic memories. It only happened a few months before my mothers death where I started understand the feel behind peoples words I learned empathy and realized theres more in the world then just in my mind & what I believe and how I see things. I stopped going to school in 7th grade because people judged me because I was stressed out about school I would wake up at 6am get back at 4pm and learn nothing, literally. Everyone judged my for dropping out of school but for the last 5 years I haven’t had an alarm clock set haven’t had any stress of school work and I’ve been able to spend time in nature and travel and meet so so so so many amazing people. left and right people who change your understanding of life forever, things you wont learn in high school. most of all a big change combined with this and my mothers illness was sympathy and understanding and this sound bold but it played a huge part in any success in my life I kept quiet beneath everyone else I learned how everything ticked and tocked and worked together and how things reacted with each other it really was a science part of my life of learning things. I started to express emotion with other people like me.. I started to blend with others. I learned that no matter who you are you are flawed ether noticeably or within.. this made me so much more comfortable with who and what I was. Photos have always been a favorite of me because I have always lived such a creative life anything and everything iv’e touched i just naturally want to make mine in some way or at least leave a mark, I’m such a rowdy playful soul no matter what it is i’ve hurt people and have blessed people but both have benefited me in learned more about life.. a big step after was coming into conscious with my inner soul I stopped feeding myself anything harmful I started feeding my soul and not my pleasure side of my mind. I started making my self form a taste for healthy food I have always been averagely healthy but I really started eating weird foods that others wouldn’t touch things I know make my body and mind happy. In my view you are made of three things cut separately. You have your subconscious.. you have your body and mind.. and you have your soul. in order to stay in tune with life you must keep all 3 in a working order. all 3 are here to only make things good for you. Your body does not want anything bad to happened within or to you. Its all a chain reaction. you have to nourish your body and mind to be healthy you must be active you have to do things that make you feel pain so you can become stronger mentally and physically. Your sub conscious is your other half it catches everything you don’t it reads your surrounding its important to fill it with things you love and come to understand it and treat it well because it all comes back to you. It also has a huge play on the way you feel when you don’t pay attention and even more in your dreams when you sleep. The last is your soul is who and what you are its the emotions you feel and the things you love feed your soul by love and other people feed it with the things you love and that make time move by faster. once you get all three of these in working order you will be all around more happy and content. I’ve entered an entire new world literally because being able to control and learn my sub conscious iv’e got really into lucid dreaming.. & I look forward going to sleep every night because I get lost in this crazy world in my mind and its just magic and bliss its better then any drug on psychedelic you could do, I’ve spent time with my mother in my dreams I’ve seen and done things you can’t do in real life. I don’t know how to explain it but lucid dreaming is basically when you are aware you are dreaming and you can take advantage of it, your sub conscious is what makes your dreams landscapes and the things around you and so becoming internally content with it. I started making a name for myself through taking photo’s of my lifestyle & the things around me and it started to inspire people around me i’d get people writing to me about how i’ve made them re evaluate life or sooth there mind and soul. And still to this day I don’t understand how or what but doing something I love & making other people happy while I do it is a no brainer. Seriously Find what you love and do it as much as you can, forever. I’ve learned by exposing my self and not hiding my feelings and thoughts I went from feeling alone to being more loved then ever I have amazing friends all over this planet now. Girls use to never look at me now I can literally seduce and dig into a girls soul and eyes. I’ve gone to places now I thought I never would have in life. I’ve gotten opportunities I never would have before.. People give me more respect for doing something with my life now. Life is a trip and I’m only 18 I got alot ahead of me and I can’t wait for it all to unfold… These are some of the biggest changes in my life sorry If that was long but I’d rather share a little bit of what I learned. I could go on for days, but both of us would be exhausted.

– Jay Alvarrez

As you can see is this beautiful soul not only a photographer but guess what?! Also a successful model by L.A. Models & Next Miami & Premier Hawaii.

Cant get enough? You can see much much more about Jay’s life on; www.jayalvarrez.tumblr.com

Get inspired!

Love,

 

Limitless

Hi lovely’s,

It is been a while now since the last time that I post something, I am sorry for that but I am terrably busy. Yesterday I came home around 1:30 in the night and my alarm went off at 6 in the morning for a full day at work. Although I love being busy like this, I still wish that the day had more hours. All the fun and excited things are coming my way now. This year started rough for me, but now I can tell, and see that it was all for the best. I feel much more alive now, FREE, I grow, learn, explore and follow my own path. I found out that there is no limit, until you give yourself a limit. I am very thankful for everything that happened, even if I wasn’t that happy about it at the time. I truly believe that it goes better and better! Thank you Universe!

Andddd a little newsflash! I signed up for the Ladies run in Rotterdam, 10km! I decided to join it this year because I like to run for a reason, especially for Pink Ribbon. And to be honest I needed some extra motivation. Since Christmas my workout routine is bad… I need to make time for things that I want to do.. In the morning I always make plans like: “Today I am going to run, kickboxing and relax in the evening” And guess how that works out lately?! No kickboxing, 2 km walk and late in the evening I take some time to relax, can’t sleep because I worry that I have to wake up in 4 hours! Sounds familiar?!

I need to find a way that I can do the things I really want to do. So I am going to make a good plan for myself and promise that I do everything that I really really want to do in a day, so that I can be proud at myself when I lay in bed. Like training for the ladies run, writing on romyashley.com, making my favorite bracelets, watch the latest episodes from The Blacklist, Revenge and Pretty Little Liars and make more time to rest and relax.

I hope you all have a amazing day, and remember… No Limits!

 

Love,

Just go with the flow…

I found this a while ago on tumblr and I had to share it with you guys. It made me realize how important it is to appreciate the little things in live… How important it is to be honest and that you are the only one who can make your life wonderful and pure. Save the beautiful memories instead of thinking the bad ones over and over again. Stop worrying about stupid fights, being bitchie about someone else and be angry about things your forget about in two weeks … Fill your time with the good things in your life and love the people around you.

21 Habits of Happy People

1. Appreciate Life – Be thankful that you woke up alive each morning. Develop a childlike sense of wonder towards life. Focus on the beauty of every living thing. Make the most of each day. Don’t take anything for granted. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

2. Choose Friends Wisely – Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values and goals. Friends that have the same ethics as you will encourage you to achieve your dreams. They help you to feel good about yourself. They are there to lend a helping hand when needed.

3. Be Considerate – Accept others for who they are as well as where they are in life. Respect them for who they are. Touch them with a kind and generous spirit. Help when you are able, without trying to change the other person. Try to brighten the day of everyone you come into contact with.

4. Learn Continuously – Keep up to date with the latest news regarding your career and hobbies. Try new and daring things that has sparked your interest – such as dancing, skiing, surfing or sky-diving.

5. Creative Problem Solving – Don’t wallow in self-pity. As soon as you face a challenge get busy finding a solution. Don’t let the set backs affect your mood, instead see each new obstacle you face as an opportunity to make a positive change. Learn to trust your gut instincts – it’s almost always right.

6. Do What They Love – Some statistics show that 80% of people dislike their jobs! No wonder there’s so many unhappy people running around. We spend a great deal of our life working. Choose a career that you enjoy – the extra money of a job you detest isn’t worth it. Make time to enjoy your hobbies and pursue special interests.

7. Enjoy Life – Take the time to see the beauty around you. There’s more to life than work. Take time to smell the roses, watch a sunset or sunrise with a loved one, take a walk along the seashore, hike in the woods etc. Learn to live in the present moment and cherish it. Don’t live in the past or the future.

8. Laugh – Don’t take yourself – or life to seriously. You can find humor in just about any situation. Laugh at yourself – no one’s perfect. When appropriate laugh and make light of the circumstances. (Naturally there are times that you should be serious as it would be improper to laugh.)

9. Forgive – Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. Forgive others for your own peace of mind. When you make a mistake – own up to it – learn from it – and FORGIVE yourself.

“Happiness is a habit – cultivate it.” ~ Elbert Hubbard

10. Gratitude – Develop an attitude of gratitude. Count your blessings; All of them – even the things that seem trivial. Be grateful for your home, your work and most importantly your family and friends. Take the time to tell them that you are happy they are in your life.

11. Invest in Relationships – Always make sure your loved ones know you love them even in times of conflict. Nurture and grow your relationships with your family and friends by making the time to spend with them. Don’t break your promises to them. Be supportive.

12. Keep Their Word – Honesty is the best policy. Every action and decision you make should be based on honesty. Be honest with yourself and with your loved ones.

13. Meditate – MEDITATION gives your very active brain a rest. When it’s rested you will have more energy and function at a higher level. Types of meditation include yoga, hypnosis, relaxation tapes, affirmations, visualization or just sitting in complete silence. Find something you enjoy and make the time to practice daily.

14. Mind Their Own Business – Concentrate on creating your life the way you want it. Take care of you and your family. Don’t get overly concerned with what other people are doing or saying. Don’t get caught up with gossip or name calling. Don’t judge. Everyone has a right to live their own life the way they want to – including you.

15. Optimism – See the glass as half full. Find the positive side of any given situation. It’s there – even though it may be hard to find. Know that everything happens for a reason, even though you may never know what the reason is. Steer clear of negative thoughts. If a negative thought creeps in – replace it with a positive thought.

16. Love Unconditionally – Accept others for who they are. You don’t put limitations on your love. Even though you may not always like the actions of your loved ones – you continue to love them.

17. Persistence – Never give up. Face each new challenge with the attitude that it will bring you one step closer to your goal. You will never fail, as long as you never give up. Focus on what you want, learn the required skills, make a plan to succeed and take action. We are always happiest while pursuing something of value to us.

18. Be Proactive – Accept what can not be changed. Happy people don’t waste energy on circumstances beyond their control. Accept your limitations as a human being. Determine how you can take control by creating the outcome you desire – rather than waiting to respond.

19. Self Care – Take care of your mind, body and health. Get regular medical check ups. Eat healthy and work out. Get plenty of rest. Drink lots of water. Exercise your mind by continually energizing it with interesting and exciting challenges.

20. Self Confidence – Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. After all no one likes a phony. Determine who you are in the inside – your own personal likes and dislikes. Be confident in who you are. Do the best you can and don’t second guess yourself.

21. Take Responsibility – Happy people know and understand that they are 100% responsible for their life. They take responsibility for their moods, attitude, thoughts, feelings, actions and words. They are the first to admit when they’ve made a mistake.

Begin today by taking responsibility for your happiness. Work on developing these habits as you own. The more you incorporate the above habits into your daily lifestyle – the happier you will be.

Most of all: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.

 

Love,